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No, Thank You John — Sep 6, 2026

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I never said I loved you, John:
Why will you tease me day by day,
And wax a weariness to think upon
With always "do" and "pray"?

You Know I never loved you, John;
No fault of mine made me your toast:
Why will you haunt me with a face as wan
As shows an hour-old ghost?

I dare say Meg or Moll would take
Pity upon you, if you'd ask:
And pray don't remain single for my sake
Who can't perform the task.

I have no heart?-Perhaps I have not;
But then you're mad to take offence
That don't give you what I have not got:
Use your common sense.

Let bygones be bygones:
Don't call me false, who owed not to be true:
I'd rather answer "No" to fifty Johns
Than answer "Yes" to you.

Let's mar our plesant days no more,
Song-birds of passage, days of youth:
Catch at today, forget the days before:
I'll wink at your untruth.

Let us strike hands as hearty friends;
No more, no less; and friendship's good:
Only don't keep in veiw ulterior ends, And points not understood

In open treaty. Rise above
Quibbles and shuffling off and on:
Here's friendship for you if you like; but love,-
No, thank you, John.

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📖 About this poem

Christina Rossetti wrote this as a firm, funny rebuttal to unwanted romantic pressure, and it reads almost like a conversation you could hear today. The speaker's patience is worn thin by John's moping, and she refuses to perform feelings she doesn't have just to spare his ego. The rhythm stays brisk and conversational, closer to speech than to solemn Victorian verse, which makes her irritation feel immediate rather than staged. The image of John's face "as wan as shows an hour-old ghost" is both comic and cutting, deflating his wounded suffering with a single sharp picture. What keeps the poem alive now is its refusal to soften a "no" into guilt or apology. She offers friendship freely but declines the performance of love, delivering one of literature's earliest, cleanest examples of a woman setting a boundary and meaning it, without cruelty, without hedging, and without asking permission to feel the way she feels.